We’ve been having this problem for some time now. As you know, because of our work schedules, Trin and I have to alternate the task of accompanying Ajab to school each morning. When it’s my turn, it’s pretty straight forward. Ajab has no problems, no tantrums. It’s only when it’s Trin’s turn, the trouble begins and Ajab would throw an almighty tantrum right there at the passenger drop off point because he wants to stay in the car with me.
His teacher then suggested that since his language and understanding is still lacking, perhaps pictures would help. Thus we took her advice and created this:
Who is that fella in the picture? ZOMG!!
We’re gonna start this method today, since it’s Trin’s turn to accompany him. What we’ll do is show him the board once at home before we leave. We’ll show him the picture of whom he’s going to school with and ask him to take the picture and paste it on the board, after which we’ll bring the board in the car and after dropping off Ayeed and Maya at their grandparents’ place, before driving off to Ajab’s school, we’re going to show him again whom he’s going to school with, just to reinforce the point.
Hopefully this will, to some extent, prepare him for the morning in school and alleviate the tantrums, thus making Trin’s and Ajab’s atuk’s job (when it’s his turn to accompany Ajab next week) a little easier. Believe me, a toddler trashing about on the hard road surface of a car park, sometimes even hitting his head on the ground, is horribly difficult to handle. We have to be firm and use of strength to hold him so that he won’t hurt himself and that’s when it gets exhausting. It’s even more so when he still would not listen to us or calm down and continues to trash about. That’s usually when I would use brute force and haul him off the floor and really set him straight. Mr Deranged would most likely appear at this time, much to his horror. It works and he’ll calm down rather quickly.
“Sayang, sayang” will not work with Ajab. Speak to him gently and kindly? You can try till the cows come home and you’d still not get him to move off the floor.
So, we’re keeping our fingers crossed that this method will help him understand the situation better.
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